Sex, Abundance and Sustainability

Are you sure you don't mean the avoidance of ejaculation as opposed to avoiding orgasm? Avoiding orgasm smells like puritanism couched as Taoist wisdom. If one is present to the ecstasy of love-making, then orgasm is something that happens naturally. As long as there is some disclipline in the process of love-making, orgasm is a great gift. I feel consistently fed and nourished by my orgasms. Of course- I don't just let them the go the first second I feel that I want to cum. I build myself up and prolong the energy, open up the microcosmic circuit to feed the brain, store some of the energy in my lower dan tien or navel chakra. And I am talking masturbation here since I don't have a partner.

Avoiding orgasm seems like telling a kid, "Here- have this lollipop- but don't enjoy it too much- just a little bit." Egyptian tantra is ALL about orgasm. They didn't even really care what you did to get to orgasm. But they had a very strict application for what to do during orgasm so that it would feed your energy field and higher centers in the brain. This is obviously too much to get into for the purposes of this response. But another thing I wanted to mention is that I don't feel like we should be encouraging the avoidance of intense emotions in the most intense chaotic time the world has ever seen. Or else we feed the robot paradigm.

In some of the more esoteric "Vedic" literatures, they mention how the "dopamine" and/or other "chemical pleasures" are actually there only to insure we continue to procreate.

In other words when sexual fluids are releaeed there is actually great trauma caused by the body ... great loss ...

It takes a pound of blood to produce a drop of semen. It can take the body up to 45 days to fully replace the continence of just one seminal ejaculation.

If we were not "coated over" with chemical pleasure responses, we might just for-go such "sacrifice" of our very  "inherency" ...

Yet to create another life such is required.

Another point is that if this sexual fluid is retained, and not exhausted, it leads to finer subtle evolutions of thought and feeling.

"Sukriti" is a Sanskrit word that refers to this state of refined intelligence....  A deeper "ideological mellow" does evolve.... 

This is why certain "Tantric" practices promote the retention of sexual fluids, while "enticing" the mellows of the lower to higher progressive chakra's without allowing the "karmic culmination" to "overtake" the actual process of ongoing yoga.

The sacrifice of semen was only sanctioned for the production of life.

There was one Hare Krsna fellow, a Guru who died some years back at age 70. At age 50 he retired from family life and became a monk.

However even in his family life he was so trained up in this "Vedic Science" that while he was married he only "passed semen" 7 times ... and he had 7 children.

There are whole "yajna's" or sacrificial sciences of how to engage our will in sesxual activity, above and beyond the emotional-chemical complex ... if in fact one cares to understand and/or practise such art.

Talk about population control. Imagine a planet with zero contraception ... zero lust.

One can actually, through all kinds of subtle foreplay enjoy all the mellows of exchange without full blown release.

The peak of any experience is the very "seed of loss" ... it being our going through the "cycle" of associated thoughts and feelings that determine our life's "dharma" ... not the the relative "karma's" of eaxh categorical plateau {whether good or bad}

Like seasonal changes, as one gets older and wiser it is the very cycle of life itself that deepens ones understanding ... not the birth of Spring .. or Summers peak.

Yet such peak experiences, just like actual "loss" ... do indeed have their place ... in balancing out ones complacency with ongoing inertia.

The sexual revolution ... leading to anonymous "feel-up booths" at Burning Man" is sometimes justified relative to the undue collective sexual repressions of previous centuries. {fair enough}

Yet if all pasr karmic cycles are preparing for a "cosmic rebooting" around 2012 .. then all these relative momentums will be ... are ... finishing up.

Free to only do whatever I feel/want ... free to never have to only do what I feel/want ...

What will the wisdom of the age be treaching us.

I think this material is especially difficult to accept for people, like me, who come from backgrounds of compulsion, addiction, fundamentalism, etc. Why? Because no orgasm sex really works wonders. And what works, for people healing from addiction and fundamentalism, etc, is easily made into another "thing" to get hooked on. It's easy. The love making, even if it's avoiding orgasm, can produce similar, perhaps subtler, effects as orgasm if it is clung onto as the "answer of all answers." It creates another kind of imbalance that can feed into the love-making and create more frustration or addiction.

So, in other words, for those people hooked on orgasm this style of love-making may not make for an easy or smooth transition. It's not a quick fix. It takes time, patience, experimenting, optimism, and the ability to be honest and reflect while giving the practice a serious "Go" over the long haul.

I personally think this practice is more suited for monogamy because of the fact that it doesn't seem accessible very "quickly." My partner and I have tried, then failed, then tried, then failed, over 9 months, and are just now starting to begin to understand what the orgasm cycle does to the body/mind/energy systems.

All the talk about "tantra," to me, is possible, but I think it's a pretty advanced practice for most people. And often I think the "tantra" card is played, intellectually, in order to avoid really trying a non-orgasm sexual practice.

It's interesting to note that ayahuasca shamans, for example, are not allowed to orgasm during most of their apprenticeship. It's considered incredibly dangerous.Even afterward, from what I've seen in the jungle, ayahuasca shamans are wary of orgasms.

Anyway you slice it, doesn't our world need a little more love for love's sake, rather than love for the sake of orgasm? Just thinking out loud...

Adam Elenbaas

 For the males -- orgasm does not mean ejaculation if you want to recharge your energy. For the females -- electromagnetic energy is what causes the orgasm and the hormones as electrochemical bliss are attracted to the electromagnetic energy.

So this article talks about sex as a dopamine addiction and, in fact, there's a prominent female anthropologist who gave a TED lecture on this subject -- she's an expert on love addiction. Dopamine is the cause of "crimes of passion" -- love addiction is not an emotion but a DRIVE -- a function of the cerebellum as a motor function. Other dopamine highs in the West (besides coke, as mentioned in the above article): Salt, sugar, caffeine, alcohol and gambling!

So the issue here is really serotonin (oxytocin) vs dopamine as a starter. Dopamine is a byproduct of testosterone release via the adrenal glands -- so studies have shown that testosterone increases agression but not necessarily violence. Females release testosterone at orgasm. 

Dopamine highs equal violence as a motor function after testosterone builds up. That's all a problem caused by MALE EJACULATION!! Why?  Because the male external climax is a trigger for the STRESS dopamine adrenal sympathetic cortisol system.  So, obviously, this is a deep, deep issue -- but guess what?

The Bushmen culture represents 90% of human history (from 10,000 BCE to 100,000 BCE). Modern humans, during that whole time lived like BONOBOS. Male bonobos ejaculate only very rarely yet have sex all the time and there's next to no violence -- it's a matrifocal culture. The Bushmen learned to intensify this physiological transformation so sex was used for love-light healing.

The healers build up the hormone energy and ionize the electrochemical emotional energy so that the serotonin in the stomach bypasses the blood-brain barrier and increases the melatonin (the STRONGEST ANTIOXIDANT) and then increases the DMT to open the pineal gland. This is done through synchronized resonance via trance dance and fasting and mental focus. At first the males train in isolation from the females but once the pineal gland is open then a male-female open circuit is created for continual healing energy.

In fact this same healing energy is created through the intention of love through the heart but the sex energy is the foundation to increase the heart energy. The brain on its own is very weak -- it's the sex energy that creates the will power for healing. Once the male learns to transform the sex energy into electromagnetic love pineal gland energy that is transmitted out of the brain -- then the psychic mutual climax RECHARGES the energy.  Over and over again. 

The erection still happens but it's focused on the vagus nerve climax -- just like females climax through the parasympathetic vagus nerve.  The vagus nerve connects to the pineal gland via the neck -- you can actually see the vagus nerve pulsate along the neck as the electromagnetic energy shoots out of the pineal gland and in turn the female electrochemical energy is sucked up via the full-lotus.  The pulsating speeds up until climax and then the next round kicks in at a deeper healing intensity.  Again after about 10 mutual psychic climaxes the heart chakras open up and true love emerges from the resolution of the sexual tension.

Illness is just "extra" energy in the body as disharmonized electrochemical blockages -- each body organ is controlled by an emotion. Liver damage is anger, lung damage is sadness, kidney damage is fear, pancreas damage is worry, heart damage is over-excitement. The full-lotus body position is the tetrahedron vortex to harmonize the kidney life force energy (the internal reproductive hormone energy) so that the parasympathetic RELAXATION nervous system is maintained without the external ejaculation of the male as the stress sympathetic trigger. The simplest way to learn this is to practice the "small universe" or "microcosmic orbit" which transforms the emotional energy into electromagnetic energy so that there is an increased natural attraction between the male and female. The energy blockages are then continually broken up and released back into pure consciousness -- the source of light -- through the deepening of the orgasm climaxes.

The Bushmen females even insisted that the male anthropologists become initiated as trance dance healers -- because otherwise the male is pretty much a drag on humanity, controlled by their lower emotions of anger, fear, worry, sadness and over-excitement. The release of energy blockages back to the source of energy, pure consciousness, returns the mind-body to it's inherent reality of peace. This is called the "inner smile" in Taoism. It's because the inner ear used to be the jaw bone for early primates when sound was our dominant perception and we lived in trees as shrews. The pineal gland connects with the cerebellum so that we can over-ride the dopamine-testosterone motor drive behind violence. The inner smile takes over. Eating bananas helps as well.

I hate to beat a dead horse over this but my experience is that modern males are pretty much a lost cause. It's very difficult for the modern male to sublimate and TRANSFORM the internal hormones to open up the pineal gland. I'm talking about creating electromagnetic energy -- again it's the male electromagnetic energy that shoots into the female.

 Certainly females can have their own orgasms without any male physical contact even -- but let me share some more "secrets." From my experience body language is crucial -- the electromagnetic energy is expressed through the eyes first of all. The "ionized" energy can also be sucked into the female body -- or into the lower half of any male or female body -- by "priming the pump." This is why people focused on sex often cross their legs and pump their legs or else bounce their legs fanatically. This is an attempt to suck off the ionized sex energy -- the generative force -- of people around them -- without any physical contact. So the Bushmen healer focuses on trance staring -- shooting the light into the females.

The healer has the ability to transduce ionized hormones into electromagnetic energy shot out of the pineal gland -- focused through the eyes. In contrast, in modern male culture the "gaze" is the same as the "evil eye" -- why? -- because the modern male has not sublimated and opened up the pineal gland. So the modern male is fixated on ejaculation -- the opposite type of transduction. Gurdjieff calls this the "Number 1" or Number 2" person -- whereas what I do is the "Number 4" person -- the pineal gland is permanently magnetized. So the Number 1 person has their personality essence -- their electromagnetic focus -- stuck in their lower chakras.

This is subconscious so talking about it won't change anything -- and the modern male is stuck in habits, in instincts -- that go against sublimation of sex energy. Civilization goes against it -- the full-lotus is really the only effective means to counteract the constant focus on ejaculation in modern culture. This means that their soul's focus is on creating sex fluid!

Whereas a male HEALER is focused on creating love-LIGHT. So a healer's nemesis is the perv which is increasingly common -- since the perv is addicted to ejaculation. Body language is crucial -- eye contact -- if a perv is staring that means the perv is pulling down another person's electromagnetic energy -- down to that person's lower chakras -- so that the perv can transduce the energy into sex fluid for themselves. Like any other addiction the perv cure is to "empty out" the awareness.

 In other words if I'm in full-lotus the perv will attempt to deconvert my electromagnetic energy back into sex fluid for himself -- but as long as I stay in full-lotus then I can't be deconverted AND my energy will continue to be recycled from the source of electromagnetic light -- pure consciousness. The male-female tantric cycle recycles this energy freely in an upwardly sublimated cycle -- while the perv is constantly fighting against this healing energy. So the best antidote to the perv attack is that the male healer has the stored electromagnetic energy sucked up by a female -- because the female climax is internal and parasympathetic while the male ejaculation is external and activates the STRESS system. So the female can continue to climax and the male healer and continue to build up the energy - taking in the females electrochemical energy and then transducing it into electromagnetic healing energy.

Each climax building to a more intense concentration of electromagnetic energy. Food goes against this as well -- the body has to be cleaned out -- since the vagus nerve transduces anaerobic bacteria into the brain. The bacteria is turned into electromagnetic energy -- the shit is recycled. SUSTAINABLE living is based on humanure (Asian traditional farming has always composted human shit). And so it is with human healing -- the lower half of the body energy (sex and shit) is transduced -- earth is harmonized into heaven.

Modern left brain dominance cuts off this harmonized transduction so that the heart chakra remains subconsciously closed -- dead -- the left-brain is focused instead on right-hand technology for domination of Nature.

For example in Tibetan yoga Naropa was taught to get a wife and then he learned that sex did not fulfill his spiritual desires. See the book titled something like "Kiss of the Dakinis Warm Breath." Naropa had more and more sex but the love was lacking -- only then did his desire deepen to seek a deeper bliss of the heart -- created by ELECTROMAGNETIC energy.

The book "Taoist Yoga: Alchemy and Immortality" by Charles Luk teaches how to do this and Mantak Chia's first book gives the beginning details and http://springforestqigong.com has the small universe c.d. for practice.

This is all very interesting, and I certainly agree that most of us are deeply habit-bound around sex. Working with those habits has been a part of my yoga/meditation practice for a long time, and now I finally have a partner who is willing to experiment with me--yipee!

I am willing to experiment with the method Marina describes, but I admit to a certain amount of skepticism, as I have consistently found that I am calmer, have more consistent mood and greater capacity for joy and intimacy when I allow my sexual/creative energy to flow as strongly and abundantly as it wants to. This can mean spending doing ecstatic dance, or singing and praying at the river as well as expressing myself in more traditionally "sexual" ways--but often it includes multiple orgasms...Whether I am partnered or not, I do best when I have a regular sexual practice with myself as part of my asana/pranayama practice. I guess some folks who have commented here would conclude that I am just an addict who's bitchy if she can't get her fix, and like most of us, I have my addictive tendencies and my deeply rooted karmic habits. But I don't think that's the end of the story.

Most of the ancient literature on this subject I've read seems to be written by and for males. Even among the commenters on this website, many of whom are clearly more deeply informed than I am, most seem to be talking about the benefits to males of abstaining from orgasm--or perhaps only ejaculation. I remain unconvinced that these pertain to females to the same extent. With all due respect to Mantauk Chia, I think we are still waiting for a rediscovery--or perhaps reinvention--of ancient wisdom regarding the appropriate cultivation and use of female sexual energy.

As to sucking sexual energy up the spine, maybe this was an absolutely essential practice for everyone everywhere once upon a time, but I am a healer and I observe that many, if not most, of my clients today suffer deeply from not being able to go down and connect with the earth. Far from being mired in their lower chakras, they seem to be cut off at about the solar plexus! This is especially true of many of my female clients, but I see it many males as well--especially those who are deeply sensitive and repelled by the history of patriarchal violence in which they feel implicated by virtue of their genitals...I don't think more "going up" is called for in these cases. In my own healing journey,I have experienced many benefits from encouraging (via breathing and visualization) my own sexual energy to move through blocked, deeply injured places in my pelvis and hips to my frequently-injured, weak ankles and feet. This has, for instance, dramatically improved my balance--physically and psychically, because of course there is no difference.

So thanks for this interesting grist for the mill, but I remain unconvinced that there is one form of mindful sexual practice which is best for all people at all times, let alone for the planet. Given the current state of affairs, I'm pretty happy to see people experimenting with any and all forms of mindfulness toward sexual energy.