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A New Generation of Buddhists

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Ten years ago, when I was an undergrad, I felt alone. I was known for two things around campus: the first was being a "hardcore" Buddhist and the second always being up for going out on the town with friends. I would drink, have sex, and do a lot of things that my peers would do, but because I was a Buddhist and, more often than not, many people do not know of the rules for lay practitioners, I found that acting like a typical college student was frowned upon by my peers. On top of that, it took me a long time to figure out how to walk that fine line between being a meditation practitioner and living the life of a young person.

Partway through my freshman year, I founded a meditation group on campus. Soon, other Buddhists (or at least people interested in meditation) came and sat with me on a regular basis. That's the first time I started to feel less alone. These individuals were going through the same struggle as me. They were trying to test the mettle of the Buddhist teachings and see how it was relevant to what they were going through.

 

Those years are the foundation for the book I wrote, The Buddha Walks into a Bar. In it I discuss how to bring the principles of mindfulness and compassion off the meditation cushion and into all aspects of our life, be it our work, our relationships, or our family life. In my understanding, the principles developed in meditation can be applied to absolutely everything we encounter in today's society.

Recently I was asked by Shambhala Publications to further this discussion and head up their Under 35 Project. The mission of the Under 35 Project is to serve as the digital hub for a new generation of meditators and act as a place for young meditators to share what it's like to try to live mindfully, every day. Each month there is a different theme and meditation practitioners write in with their experience on the issue at hand.

In the initial months since its launch, I have found myself inspired, and that sense of community of like-minded young people, struggling to apply these teachings, has flourished in a short amount of time. In the past three months we have explored the topics of sex and dating, work, and social action.

Each month there is a different theme. For the first month, I was tickled to see people under the age of thirty-five trying to apply their Buddhist beliefs to online dating, polyamory, and the traditional precepts. Some stories are tender, some a bit juicy. I am proud to say that this is the only Buddhist website on the internet where you will see a story of a traditional relationship right up alongside a tale of compassion as a gentleman gives another gentleman head in a concert bathroom.

Last month we went into the topic of work. How can we apply what we learn as novice Buddhists to the place where we spend most of our waking hours? Stories of people who worked in the reality TV world, as entrepreneurs, and with really really difficult people  taught me a lot about how young people view their livelihood.

One of my favorites is a piece by a woman I met in Portland, who works as an exotic dancer.  "How," I asked, jaw dropped, "is that working out for you as a Buddhist?" Apparently, well. I've poked and prodded at this woman a few times since our initial meeting and I have to say that I have found zero self-deception with this lady. She clearly is a kind, compassionate person who is trying to balance Buddhism and this livelihood, in an effort to do the art that she loves.

Part of why I share these stories is because I think there are people out there (hello internet) who will scream "bullshit." They will say that you can't drink and be a Buddhist. Or strip and be a Buddhist. Or (and this is why I hate the internet) be a guy going down on a guy and be a Buddhist.

Yet here they are folks. Step right up. Their stories are on display and they strike me as heart-felt. I have met many of these people and they are kind. They are gentle. They are young and struggling and still learning but they are genuine in their devotion to making meditation a part of everything they are doing. I think this Under 35 Project is important for that reason, and hope you take some time to check it out.

In July we will explore starting and deepening our meditation practice. In the future we will explore bravery, marriage, health, and much more. We will continue to poke at the ways we can apply meditation to every aspect of our world. Because we are young, we are genuine practitioners, and the more this dialogue expands, the more I realize we are not alone.

 

Image by David Shankbone, courtesy of Creative Commons license.

Comments

On a Street Somewhere ...

As they met one Buddha asked the other ... "aren't you rather young and a bit wild for a Buddhist?" ... "only as young as you are old, and only as wild as you are conventional " was the reply

Strange bedfellows

For about twelve years, I have been practicing centering prayer, a form of meditation based on Christian monastic practices. A while back I was amazed to hear about a meditation group at the Pentagon. I'm not sure how that works, but I am happy they are doing it. In fact, I am happy anytime I hear about people sincerely following a meditative path and trying to bring it into the rest of their lives. The world needs more meditators.

Slightly over 35

I've enjoyed Lodro Rinzler's articles on About.com for quite some time and I'm still anticipating on reading "A Buddhist Walks into A Bar". There are many things he's written, which, as a new member of the 37 y/o club have really struck a chord with me. Very happy to see this article on Reality Sandwich and I can truly say that absolutely everything is grist for the mill. I was on a flight yesterday from Seattle to Houston which unfortunately got diverted to San Antonio due to weather. My initial reaction of anger at hearing the announcement come down from the captain watered the seeds of anger in me to be sure. Yet, when the "observer" stepped in, and I could watch the anger and see all the "what about me?" fantasies and delusions playing out in my head, I was able to take a larger perspective and realize among other things that there were plenty of people who are far more put out than I was by the delay. A sense of space and perspective, as well as sympathy for the other passengers on the plane that might not have been there before suddenly arose. Examples of everyday hassles like this can be taken to task as "practice". The mind sometimes thinks well surely I have a right to be upset but when you can just stop for a second and say "this too..." it allows for the opportunity for space to open up. Anyhow, it is encouraging to see a new generation taking so well to these teachings and it is extremely good medicine for what ails us in these times! Thank you Lodro Rinzler!