Even the Divine Ones Cannot Fathom This

I don't know if this current generation of children is any different than those that came before, but I certainly know as a middle aged practitioner of traditional medicine, the coming of our first child Maitreya was a far greater event than my arrival was for my parents in the 1960s. During my daughter's first months, our house seemed to be swimming in divine pheromones, and I joked that if we were in India, we'd be carrying my daughter about on an altar, offering incense, and singing to her throughout the day.
All joking aside, our spiritual practice did quickly change as we became aware of how important the task was that we had been given: to not pass on the mechanical ways of being that caused such suffering in our families and our culture at large to our newly-arrived child.
It came as a real delight, therefore, when I realized the good folks in the Native American Church seriously loved their children. During my first teepee, in the early morning hours, bleary eyed from intense dreams and the long vigil at the sacred fire, I beheld a handful of big guys, accompanied by a water drum, vigorously chanting: "Daddy loves his little one. She's his morning star. Daddy loves his little one. May she live in joy with every day..."
Newly come into fatherhood myself, I was thoroughly charmed. Our own child had come into the world accompanied by the icaros (medicine songs) I had learned from my own maestro in the Amazonian tradition of medicine work, but precious little of my experience with shamanic song had been addressed to children, with such a strong communal embrace. To discover that the Native American Church sings many songs to bless "all the children of the world" during their ceremonies was satisfying indeed.
There are unsuspected depths within these indigenous ways, and I soon found I had only glimpsed the surface of the Native American's love for their little ones.
In another ceremony, I sat listening to a traditional tale told by a member of the Diné, or Navaho, tribe, who had come to co-lead the work. He spoke of the sacred dimension in children, reminiscent of Christ's teaching that children already live in the Kingdom of Heaven and we must become as one of them to enter therein. Here's the story, as I recall it:
After the creation of human beings, the gods realized they had to make a special dispensation for this new race of beings who appeared too helpless and maladapted to their environment to survive. As they sat in council weighing the matter, a little human baby played in the far corner of the hogan. Absorbed in their deliberations, they didn't notice that a beam of light had entered through the door and traversed the length of the hogan to strike the wall just above the baby. Fascinated, the child reached up and, taking hold of the light beam, pulled himself up, leaning upon it with wobbly legs. Then a second beam cut through the interior, striking the wall just above the first. Seeing this, the baby threw his blanket over the first beam and clambered up it to reach it. Pulling himself on top of the second beam, he sat there gurgling contentedly. At that moment, the divine ones looked up from their council and beheld the child balancing upon the light beams. Astonished and wide-eyed, they pointed at him and whispered among themselves, "Look at that child! How did he just do that?"
"Those were the divine ones," the storyteller concluded, "and even THEY couldn't understand the wonderful capacity that little children have!"
The truly miraculous power of children hit home at the conclusion of another practice within the church: the sweat lodge.
It felt like a night of open-heart surgery for all within the darkened cavern. As the water poured with prayers for healing and guidance upon the red-hot stones, the steam and heat began sloughing off layers of anger and shame in each of us. My own tears came, as I recalled my daughter's bouts of anguish, her cries emerging from depths that felt impossible for me to reach and made me realize the primal rawness of this human inheritance.
My hand, swollen and bandaged the evening of the sweat lodge, was still recovering from a fracture caused when I punched a wall in response to my daughter's heart-rending cries a month earlier - an action I confessed to in the lodge as I finally started to come to terms with my self-destructive actions.
At the ceremony's conclusion, I crawled out into the cool night air. Enveloped by the night, I made my way to the water hose, doused myself and drank deeply. I then rested, still in prayer, in front of the fire where the stones still radiated their force among the coals. Here I asked my daughter Maitreya's forgiveness for all my shortcomings as a father, aware of how through fear, I had grown callous, repeating the old saw, "We all survived these things and came out okay..."
Then I understood the divine nature of my daughter, her effortless perfection unsurpassed even by the holy ones. I felt my face relax and open as I gazed into the sky, and a deep, ineluctable joy emerged. "If it is impossible to get impatient with my daughter," I asked, "how can I get angry with my wife, who I love as well?"
All the complications of adult communication rolled over me -- all the implicit and explicit demands and concessions of married life. Yet did not my wife share the same fundamental nature as my daughter? Do we not all equally share in the marvelous abundance of Maitreya, the one-thus-come?
In fact, don't all beings share in it? I asked the night sky.
My anguish dissolved, and I found myself ranging with wild exuberance through the Buddhist practice of extending compassion to all beings, charging into the most distressed regions of my memory and discovering that there, too, lo and behold, Maitreya's nature remained true!
Fear is like a magician's deception, the ancient texts tell us, for the nature of the cosmos is as pure as my daughter's nature. What had been a laborious struggle before - to extend unlimited compassion - became as unfettered as an eagle's soaring. I was freed by my daughter's unsurpassable grace. I reflected with delicious irony on my child's nickname - Maitri, or "loving kindness" in Sanskrit - which is the very act I had just been practicing.
"All beings by nature are Maitreya," I murmured like a mantra. It had taken my nine month old daughter to finally open my eyes to what the sages had been trying to teach me for decades.
We've had centuries of obscuring of our children's divine nature: the Augustinian Catholic doctrine of Original Sin, the privileging of language and reason over direct, primitive apprehension, the Freudian theory of polymorphous perversity in children, and the list goes on...
Clearly, it struck me that it is time to start listening to our indigenous elders, to correct our distorted views, and to start working with their medicines to restore clarity. This new generation offers us a seed, a giving forth of a "fresh shoot so fair".
I would like to invite readers of this article to share their own encounters with the divinity of children, or to share meaningful teaching stories from other indigenous cultures, or to weigh in on whether there really is a generational difference happening now. I'd love to hold a cybernet teepee with y'all.
Images by dinoboy-Eric Huang, used courtesy of a Creative Commons license.
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Great writing, and to your question: definitely.
only parents can fathom!
Hi Rome!
Phantom Fathom
Yes. Thank You for these words.
There has been a War On Youth being waged for quite a while.
I am thrilled to read this story of the Divine Ones in utter awe and bafflement of this child at play in their world. I am deeply moved that we are finally beginning to have the courage to face our own child and make amends, even more so to know these men in the Native American Church are singing their songs to the children of the world and have been doing so all the while.
The heading of your comment, Rome,
"only parents can fathom!",
hit me in the gut and inspired me to write a response.
There is something in the widely accepted sentiment of glorifying parenthood that rings false. We tend to idealize the child so as to keep our own childhood at a safe distance. Rather than turning inward and reconnecting with our own child, we tend to instead poop them out en masse, and then slap each other on the backs and give other parents that “knowing smile”. Parenthood in many ways has been revered and staunchly protected as a kind of commodity or sacred novelty that one aspires to attain to in one's life in order to gain access to a special Adult Club where one is bestowed with Golden Knowledge. It implies that a human being who never decides to actually have or raise children is automatically excluded from this community of awareness and beauty. I am doomed, never to be permitted into these gates unless I drop trow or adopt. It takes a village to raise a child (something we’re not doing a very good job of right now). It must be acknowledged that every citizen of this village has a very important role in the raising of this child even if they themselves don’t have children. This is ALL of our birthright!
The title of this article is "Even the Divine One's Can't Fathom"... And, counter to your heading Rome, in my experience, parents in this culture do not fathom shit when it comes to their children. Most parents do not even choose to acknowledge the true life of their child.
As an artist, I've been working closely with children for some time now. They impart to me truly divine lessons, sometimes taking years to unfold, and sometimes coming down on my head like a lightning hammer, carelessly dropped from heaven.
I'm so thankful and, like the Divine Ones am in awe and cannot fathom.
That I cannot fathom and that I acknowledge this truth, is a key aspect to, not becoming as a child like Jesus Christ said, but embracing my Child, allowing my Child to live its own life, so that my Adult may then fully live its own life.
It will not serve us to become as children. As I see it we've been behaving like perfectly spoiled children for quite sometime now. The Divine Ones, in many ways and in many different mythologies also behave as spoiled children.
When the Gods act up we get the brunt of the blows, and when we act up, or don't in many cases, our children get the worst of it.
I work at a Level 14 facility for children and families. These young people don't fit into The System and have been ostracized and abused by it. Some have been heavily traumatized, some are aggressive and hyper-defiant. Some of them have learning disorders, or are crack babies, or all of the above. The jargon they use in this work environment uses the idea of solid object - I must be a solid object, a solid ego for them to "push against" so to speak, as their egos are not fully developed and perhaps are fragmented, retarded, etc.
These children's egos are our own as well. A microcosm of the whole.
As much as we all want that solid object to be there, as much as we want to FINALLY be in that inner sanctum of Those Who Can Fathom, it is AND it is not there for ALL of us. Particle/Wave. It is and it is not.
This is a gift. We cannot fathom. We are terrified, wounded, and neglected children and we cannot fathom.
In this age of irony it’s all too easy for us to keep our vulnerable and wounded being in the basement while we obsessively cram ourselves in the tower of knowledge and information, in the pursuit of power, stepping on one another’s faces as we race to the top of the ladder – and Jacob’s ladder to the corporate ladder, it’s really one and the same when we negate these most vital and primal parts of our Self. We’re all certainly so very careful to surround ourselves with those whom validate this way of being.
To be in awareness, to acknowledge this War on Youth is to acknowledge the War of Self, in going through it's deaththroes/birthpains of becoming a healthy ego. Let's not allow or even entertain these ideas of the Adult being so self-important further delude or distract us from the work we must do if we are to find our whole selves. And if we must indeed grow from adolescence and be initiated into an Adult world, we can start by taking care of our children. Whether or not we're making babies, the work is still "to bring a soul into this world".
There is a shadow to the child and if we're truly interested in healing we must stop idealizing children and acknowledge this shadow. Children can be terrible, tyrannical, clumsy, manipulative... Hey, they're people, and like people they sometimes can just be total assholes. Again, like the Gods.
I look to the Marquis De Sade and Bill Hicks in helping to bring some balance and perspective to the situation. Their humors embody a very pointed and much-needed kind of hatred and loathing for The Child. Yet they value life, beauty, and truth deeply. Both of them were closer to the actual realization of being an Adult and both of them played with the ferocity and fearlessness of what many of us have yet only experienced in the memory of our childhoods, if we had/have much of one.
We can take our cue from these two beasts of men to then go ahead and insist on resurrecting our childhoods here and now, honoring both shadow and light, allowing these locked up qualities out of their basements and into the yard where they get to play, to dream. These mythologies, these planets, these words, are all parts of the same whole; the same village, the story of the universe. The dream we are ALL dreaming.
"In fact, don't all beings share in it?" rings true.
In graduating from Dell’ Arte International School of Physical Theatre, 2002, I was witness to a very important moment in the commencement ceremony. Daniel Stein, then the School Director and Corporeal Mime teacher was to give a speech to the class and our families, and in the minutes before he began as we milled into the old theatre taking our seats, a child, a baby girl was playing with all of the balloons on stage with a very preferable kind of abandon. Daniel stopped before he started, turned to us and said,
“We all have something very profound to learn from this child. Most of us take ourselves very seriously and our work, not so much… She doesn’t take herself as seriously at all, but her work, as you can see, is of the utmost importance!”
Carl Jung went through this very painful process of realizing that all that was ever really happening was a kind child's play, a moving and shuffling about of wooden blocks, a bouncing of balls, a game of Snakes and Ladders… When we have the courage to finally allow ourselves this arrival however, we will have arrived and in a way already have arrieved at the Gates of Heaven, ushering our whole selves into an Infinity of Play and Freedom.
On that note, who wants to open up a Ice Castle Themed Lazer Show Roller Skating rink in North Idaho with me? All ages, all night!
Thanks for the article and the invitation to teepee Robert, and for the heading Rome. Very moving.
Thank You to the Native American Church and all the few peoples in the world for loving and praying as much as you do every day and every night.
BLACK AS HELL
STRONG AS DEATH
SWEET AS LOVE.
-Turkish Proverb
Parenthood
Amen to that!
All beings by nature are Maitreya
Child as Diety